Nesting. I was prepped for emergency c-section and we had friends in boats out looking for him in the bay. Finally after I frantically run around the church for a few mins he calls back in which I tell him get all our pre packed bags and carseat ready to go Im on my way home she is in labor, we lived 4 hours from the birthmom. I was sleeping when suddenly cramped stood up and my water broke. Also, he decided at some point that the contraction monitor was a better gauge of my pain than I was: Oh, that one wasnt so bad. I nearly ripped his head off. He went to smoke a cigarette before the midwife came to see me,and by the time he got back, I was already pushing. This makes me smile and has healed that little part of me that resented having to be alone and strong at that one beautiful moment. 9. (I am not worried about a ride though because we have a ton of family and friends that could take me in a pinch.). -Amber, My husband made me wait for him to finish watching Gladiator after my water broke. Sure having a bonfire or watching a big game with the buddies and having that many once and a while is no big deal, but being unable, or unwilling, to stop drinking heavily on a regular basis should be a huge red flag. Hubbys problem is that he likes to talk. Here are 12 Natural Ways to Induce Labor. I said we didnt have that kind of time that Id gone from 5cm-8cm in 35 minutes. Fine. Yes, by all means continue defending your drunk husband because he's dumb and he has to drink because of his job. Not during labor, but our almost 10 pound baby ended up in the NICU for low oxygen saturation. Last week, I made a simple request on the Mommy Shorts fanpage. said he was not paying for any unnecessary pain medication since he witnessed many cows giving birth and they just plop them out. Im sure there are a ton of great husbands/partners out there. Don't take anything personally. ** Babies shouldn't be born wit thangs **
This was 1959, and husbands werent allowed in labor and delivery anyway. Its a disorder or an, How to Deal With Someone Who Blames You for Everything, 15 Ways How to Have Self-Control in a Relationship. My experience is pretty tame compared to most of these! The local McDonald's owner, Steve Akinboro, rewarded . I watched a CSI marathon the entire time I was in labor. I guess this is natures version of temporary amnesia because clearly, without it, wed never go back for more. Hiding bottles or drinking secretly so that family will not know what . He never got that chance. There's also a growing body of medical literature that finds links between stressful events in pregnancyincluding natural disastersand poor birth outcomes. Needless to say..while gasping for breath, I told him to shut up. Then just before we were about to leave for the hospital, he looked at me and said, are you really going with your hair looking like that? . With our second things went pretty well. It concerned me, I spoke to him about it, and he stopped. Because, he was a little bit tired. It was our first child. Probably my biggest moment of suppressed anger started on the 2nd of December, 2006. The day after our daughter was born my husband told me about this whole situation and directly quoted said I mean I had to pump for 2 minutes straight. And yes, I actually fix my hair. I HAVE to join in here. First baby: Yes. Get weekly updates on baby and your body. ! lol But overall, he was my rock through both of my labors and he never left my side, so I guess I cant complain too much. The nurses were advising and waiting on him. Hes only a casual race fan, btw. laughing gas has been used as a form of pain relief since the late 1900's, although you're more likely to see it at the dentist's office than a birth center. Mines more funny than bad: I went to the hospital 7 weeks early and had an emergency c-section because of HELLP syndrome. Suffer. She told you how big he was going to be. -Carrie, My husband rested the magazine he was reading on my legs while I lay dying WITHOUT an epidural. He was drinking coffee, eating breakfast and taking care of the dogs because they were going to be caged up all day. That's why it's important to do the things that make you happy, such as hobbies, movies, great food - whatever floats your boat. If we go anywhere and he has more than 2 drinks I drive home. He only ever left my side to grab a bite once in the cafe. It was also Boxing Day so during labour, he complained that there was nothing on TV. Youve got to be kidding me?! They were 1 minute apart, which was not what the books and classes told us we should be at this early on. He was only slightly better with our third. I hope for the long term something or someone can get through to him so he can find a different way to relax. He says to her Oh, the hospital said theyd call me as soon as anything happened As he was saying the words he knew hed made a mistake. He finally comes back as I was about to go investigate (and by investigate, I mean cause bodily harm) and explained that he had food stuck in his teeth so he had been trying to floss it out!!!!!! How pregnant: 41 weeks, 2 days. It's annoying, but it's not like he sits down and pounds hard alcohol or something. I had trauma to the right side of my abdomen and hip area, have muscle spasms in the regular to this day, five years later, and my incision looks crazy. Creative Skirt reserves the right to use all submitted photos,
-Lois, I was fully dilated after 18 hours and my husband said you think you can hold out pushing until I grab some breakfast?-Sarah, My husband grew this ridiculous goatee and wore a shirt that said TOERAG on it, so he looks ridiculous in all the photos. Now this of course makes us, the people theyve invited over for a BBQ, a little uncomfortable. This is YOUR own husband being an alcoholic. He had fallen back asleep. My husband was beyond perfect. Look up the options available to you, enlisting help if you need backup, and have a hopeful, serious plan ready so there's no excuse for him to say no. Sadly, this will only make things worse and nothing else. I've tried explaining this to him, but he . I used to go with him but stopped after getting pregnant as i didnt announce till 12 weeks and making excuses about not . yep, i paint with a broad ass brush. It's your body's way of protecting your baby . 5 drinks a night sounds like a problem bigger than just worrying about having a sober ride to the hospital. I want to know how old the OP and her H are as well as the ages of some of the responders who are so sure their H's will slow down the boozehound behavior closer to their edds. I know you don't want to hear this, but you really need to read up on alcoholism. Then he is hungry and is trying to make a sandwich and I inform him it is time to leave for the hospital. This has nothing to do with "men being stupid". When the guy on the other end asks so, how are you doing? because he probably heard my whimpering/low moaning in the background, my husband replies well my wife is actually in labor and were on the way to the hospital I think the guy on the phone call was speechless at first, and then smartly ended the conversation so my husband couldI dont know focus on driving through the blizzard and getting his wife to the hospital!?! At 4 weeks premature my water broke at 4am. I stop on the way home to fill up the truck and he calls me back asking if I was serious or if this was just a trail run to see how fast we could get everything readyOMG its not a test this is the real deal! We had time though E was scheduled to be induced and, although I didnt realize it, I was actually in labor the whole night before. Apparently i was keeeping him awake. Wow, after reading all of this, I swear my DH is a god among men! This, I really think that you need to convey how important it is to you and the baby, then make sure that he realizes how serious you are that you NEED a coach to help get you through this and if he is to drunk to do it then you will find someone else and he will be relegated to the waiting room. Why do I remember the date so well? Pregnant . Oh well, possibly because it was the day before I gave birth to our 3rd child, Jack. The husband was just getting off work when we found out I needed the surgery (4 weeks early with twins). Bern is a Gen X, child of the 80s. I think there should be another thread about crap husands pull after the baby is born. It also gives you a sense of control and confidence when you are working with your husband or partner on recovery. How do you know he will take you seriously if you tell him you are uncomfortable with the amount he is drinking? Thank goodness he was great the rest of the time or Id be a widow, not a divorcee. I dont know why I remember things like that. Awww come on, suck it up. She told him and he freaked out, made himself puke (totally tmi) and then was a paranoid mess the whole drive to the hospital. I am not supporting buzz driving at all - but, it is amazing how much a woman in labor will sober up a man. Braxton hicks will go away with rest, hydration and change of activity in most cases. You have had worse contractions then that! When the nurse came in he had to tell her the same. I don't feel bad because he should have enough respect for me not to drink for a month. When it comes to how to live with an alcoholic husband, try not to make any major decisions without getting input from your spouse or partner first. Woman Had Husband Murdered While She Was In Labor With His Best Friend's Baby. Not sure of this counts but after I had the baby I realized I forgot to pack underware so I told my husband to bring me a pair. My now ex husband left me home to go to army reserves for the day as i labored home alone. It was like something from a movie. Nice. After a long labor and birthing a 10 lb baby naturally, my husband, told me that the room smelled like a deer was gutted in it. Because she was in labor, he should have endured what, no food, no water, no bathroom, what is good enough? Just have a back-up plan ready so you don't need to stress about himmaybe a family member lives close by? at around 11 pm when i started to vomit and asked if we should probably get to the hospital he said are you sure this time? Joanish, My husband grew up on a cattle ranch, and during labor with our first he very confidently announced to the nurse that he wasnt nervous at all because Ive seen this a million times with cows. However, this might give you peace of mind for a moment. June 3, 2022 prince tui teka daughters. You may come across situations where things go beyond your control, and you might end up in an embarrassing situation. I was two weeks overdue, had been induced and then sent home because nothing was happening. I don't believe Alcoholics Anonymous is very effective, personally, but it's free and the meetings are plentiful, so it might be a good place to start. I had a go-bag ready with food, water and phone numbers. Seriously, OP, the issues surrounding labour should be amongst the least of your concerns here. Jackass. I called and called and called him just to get that annoying beep saying he was already on the phone (with his brother) he would not answer my call. And that I hadnt eaten dinner and was starving. It wasnt my normal doctor and she didnt believe me when I said that my four weeks early baby was estimated at around 9lbs 14 OAS two days prioryeah, I have huge kids, no gestational diabetesanyway So, she ignored that and made me incisions too small and couldnt get the baby out, despite the epidural it was PAINFUL and after ten minutes of yanking (not kidding) and vacuuming and RIPPING MY INCISION TO THE SIDE, I was screaming and crying. Grab Now! It is also important to seek professional marriage counseling if you need help handling your marriage with a spouse trying to overcome addiction. My doctor walked in while he was talking, looked at me still laying on the delivery bed, and told my husband he should probably take care of that later. Im in labor! It was one of the biggest events in . Limited-Time Deal on Marriage Course. I was about 100 years pregnant and ready to pop. My contractions are 1-2 min apart at this point. And when they do, take them to the professional instead of trying to make things right on your own. Among the no nos are the one that forbids his mom and dad and other men to come in during this private time and looking at your birth area. I dont thnk so, Omgi cant stop laughing at the thong.Im in tears here After 30 hours of labor, it was time to go to the hospital and my husband informs me that he needs to run across the street to get his hair cut and I have the number if I need him. When he finally woke up to go pee, I asked him for some ice chips and he told me he was tired and was just going to go back to sleep. I woke DH up around 2 or so once I realized I was in labor, and he drove me 20 minutes to the hospital. I went it alone and met up with him after surgery where he was holding the baby smiling, refreshed and relieved. With my 2nd son, he kept watching the monitor and telling me when I was having a contraction. IM IN LABOR, PEOPLE!!! Thank you TokenI think im in love with you! My daughters dad (who fortunately I had the good sense never to marry) kept his distance from me the last month or so of my pregnancy, which probably is what kept me from delivering in prison, but he wanted to be at the hospital for the birth. Also I am not a screamer, and when the contractions were fierce like that, I would just lay on my side, tightly gripping the bed rail, sometimes whimpering quietly as I waited for it to pass. I told my husband in the morning that I had been in labor most of the night (he slept through it). My mom would have been my birth coach. You have much bigger issues and should seriosly consider looking into alanon. The. The following morning my husband went home to get his sugar meter (he is diabetic) that he forgot. I was always sad that I was alone when my sweet son was born. (this part was planned, hospital rule, only 2 in the delivery room besides the mom- so her mom and I attended) I was mentally exhausted by the time the baby was born at 6:44 pm. Okay tell me when we need to go so I can shower first, he said. My husband decided the ideal time to invite his parents into the labor & delivery room was when I was laying spread eagle, everything out for the world to see, being stitched up by the doctor after our son was born. I would go along with the game, keep a straight, often giddy face and say nothing. -Jessica, My husband unabashedly complained about a canker sore while I was in labor. Sexuality has nothing to do with a persons character or supportiveness. So, that's the fvcked up part. He did much better the second time. However, he also started to diet right around the same time, so I think that helped. Exercise can be anything that gets the heart rate up, such as a long walk. I am not saying what your DH is doing is right, in fact, I think 5 drinks every night is a bit heavy and you should talk to him about it. However, you can convince them to set certain limits to how much they should be drinking. So, accept the fact and learn to deal with it. I had some see threw jammies to wear home >.<. They might have difficulties controlling their emotions and be prone to anger or violent behavior when drunk. -Anne, When the nurses asked how bad the pain was from 1-10 and I said 10, my husband said oh, come on it cant be that bad. I'm worried, because I NEED a good labor coach to achieve my goal of a natural birth, but if the whole process begins with me being incredibly pissed at a buzzed DH, I will fail. I said the baby is coming now. Also I agree with a pp that it should be a conversation on the weekend or when he's realaxed and preferably sober. When it comes to dealing with an alcoholic husband in denial, speaking to them about the issue in length seems a better option. Or even if it wasnt, theres still a little bit of schadenfreude involved isnt there? . This will enable you to stay focused and prevent you from giving in to temptation. In the throes of that hell my husband turns to me and says, Im about to head out and meet up with the fellas.